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Cords with our Parents.
When we are born we have ‘cords’ attached to us and to our parents. Even if we do not live with our parents or if we are adopted, we still have ties with our biological parents, but we also make new cords to the adoptive parents. Some ties or cords eventually, naturally break and fall away, as we grow and change. We will always have fine, spiritual ties to our parents in order for us to find each other again in other lifetimes.
Children have several ties with their parents. The first ones start to break and drop away by the time we reach the ages of 3-5 years. This is a time when you are usually beginning to become more individual. The next tie usually breaks during puberty, between about 11-14 years old. If these ties do not break or fall away smoothly and naturally at these ages, you may find it very hard to totally break free and be an individual. It is when these ties have not fallen away, that you may require help to have them removed.
Then when you are between about 16-21 years, bigger more important cords or ties, break. This should be a time when you are becoming a true individual adult, which so few of us are.
It can be very hard to break free of some parents, some of the reasons why the cords do not drop are because of your parents their own insecurities or lack of Self love. Parents can grip onto you, having a fear of losing their purpose in life, as you grow up. They may need you to do things for them, by the use of emotional blackmail etc. All these kinds of things can prevent these final important cords from naturally dropping away. You never quite become your own person, a common symptom of cords still being attached maybe always thinking what would your ‘mum’ think or what would your ‘Dad’ do or say and maybe still wanting their approval all the time - even though this is natural for us to want approval, in some cases it can be more pronounced.
Cords often don’t fall away naturally because of karmic reasons which we have set up before we are born. As stated previously this can stop you from becoming an individual, having your own views and opinions and growing independent. If this is the case, even more negative cords start to form and continue into all your adult relationship.
If you want to really help yourself with your personal growth, the best place to start may well be arranging a Decording Session from your parents, as soon as possible. This is not meant to be unkind to your parents, it is releasing and liberating for both parties concerned.
Decording can be done even if you have lost either or both of your parents, the cords will still remain. There was a case where a 70 year old woman received a Decording and finally she started to live the life she had only ever dreamed of, finally freeing herself from her mother. In other words it is never to late.
Remember the Love ties always remain, it is the Karmic and negative ties I am talking about.
For more information about Cords and Decording please see my other pages:
Decording Sessions | Cords - Explained | Cords in our Relationships
